MY SELECT QUOTES ON LEARNING ... “THE CEO METACOACH IS ONE WHO HELPS THE LEARNER TO SEE THE SPARK IN THEMSELVES ..” Dr Wilfred Monteiro founder CEO METACOACH MODEL

Following are quotations that reflect on the nature of true learning with its innate, inspiring quality, a power beyond description. Education is deeply transformational, and its power affects the essential, human tapestry of life and society. The following quotations are not place in order of importance as that would be impossible.

“Education is the kindling of a flame, not the filling of a vessel.” ― Socrates

 

“Education sows not seeds in you, but makes your seeds grow.” -- Lebanese-American writer and poet, Kahlil Gibran

 

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” -- American futurist, Alvin Toffler

 

“Just think of the tragedy of teaching children not to doubt.” -- American lawyer, Clarence Darrow

 

“What did you ask at school today?” -- Nobel Prize-winning, American scientist, Richard Fenyman

 

“I am always ready to learn although I do not always like being taught.” -- Nobel Prize-winning English statesman, Winston Churchill

 

“I shut my eyes in order to see.” -- French artist, Paul Gauguin

 

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” -- French author, Marcel Proust

 

“The secret in education lies in respecting the student.” -- American writer, Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

“In today’s knowledge-based economy, what you earn depends on what you learn.” -- Former U.S. President, William J. Clinton

 

“Learning without thought is labor lost; thought without learning is perilous.” -- Chinese philosopher, Confucius

 

“In the field of observation, chance favors the prepared mind.” -- French chemist, Louis Pasteur

 

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.” -- Ford Motor Company founder, Henry Ford

 

“Do not seek to follow in the footseps of the men of old; seek what they sought.” -- Japanese poet,Matsuo Basho

 

“Knowledge is Life with wings.” -- Lebanese-American writer and poet, Kahlil Gibran

 

“Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere." -- Chinese proverb

 

It is not that I'm so smart. But I stay with the questions much longer.” ― Albert Einstein

 

I am not a teacher, but an awakener.” ― Robert Frost

 

“The more I read, the more I acquire, the more certain I am that I know nothing.” ― Voltaire

 

until you deal with your SELF ESTEEM issues, business success cannot be fully achieved or enjoyed. By working on your self, success must follow.

DEAL WITH YOUR SELF ESTEEM  FIRST   Do you find it more difficult than most to reach important decisions? When faced with a problem, are you able to stay reasonably objective or do you internalize the situation? Every individual perceives crises situations differently and thus, handles them differently.  People with high self-esteem generally feel confident when faced with unexpected life challenges, while those with lower self-esteem constantly question their ability to cope with them. The good news is that through self-awareness you can work on “the weaker parts” of yourself and unleash your individual talents and uniqueness in all arenas of your life.   Becoming more self-aware is not always easy or fun, however. Individuals must be completely honest with themselves, and this requires patience and perseverance. Low self-esteem may stem from the following:  (1) negative childhood experiences,  (2) repeating negative patterns in adulthood and  (3) feelings of failure.  Do newborn babies come into the world worried and distressed or do they come into the world clean and ready to explore? Unfortunately, as children we are unable to choose our environment or upbringing. All we have to go on is what our parents and schoolteachers tell us. Some parents praise their children by saying things like, “I’m proud of you” or “You did a great job.” Others criticize their children by saying things like, “You’re so stupid” or “You should know better than that.” Did you know that children actually pick up their own parents’ fears subconsciously and are victims of their parents’ projections?   Now picture a child who was raised in a toxic environment for a moment. In this context, “toxic” means verbally and/or physically abusive surroundings. How does he or she learn to cope?  This child has three choices:  (1) He or she can follow their parents who lead them like “sheep”,  (2) He or she can rebel against their parents or  (3) He or she can go back and forth between the two behaviors.  The point: when children grow into adolescence, they must find a “balance” between listening to their parents and making their own independent decisions. Toxic parents need to heal themselves so they don’t further contaminate their child’s mind.   Low self-esteem may also stem from negative patterns continued through to adulthood.  Perhaps what you learned as a child is showing up in your own marriage and/or other relationships. Abusive relationships of any kind are “familiar” territory, and this “familiarity” is what perpetuates negative behavioral patterns to begin with. If “daddy” had a bad temper and hit his daughter, for example, that child (who is now an adult) might go out and marry a man just like him, if she fails to break the pattern through self-awareness work.   Poor self-esteem may also arise from “feeling like a failure”. Individuals may perceive a life change or life challenge negatively or incorrectly. For instance, losing a job, doing poorly on an exam, or getting a divorce may feel like “the end of the world” to one person and a “temporary downfall” to the next. Individuals with low self-esteem internalize failure and always look for others to boost them because their environment doesn’t. Good psychotherapy can help. Speaking to a trustworthy expert helps repair a shattered self-image.    OVERCOME YOUR OWN HIDDEN BARRIERS TO SUCCESS Three tips on how you can boost your self-esteem are worth mentioning here: (1) Recognize your uniqueness, (2) Understand whom the problem belongs to and (3) Open up to someone trustworthy to guide you through the process.  In order to recognize your uniqueness, ask yourself the following question and write down your answers:  “What am I good / great at?”  If it’s music, writing, swimming or all of these things, right them down. By making a list for yourself, you will soon tap into your true self. The next step is to go out and do those things you love and further develop your skills.   Next: understand that deep-rooted negative feelings come from being around toxic people for too long. Remember that critics really criticize what they don’t like about themselves.  This is known as the “mirror effect.” Critics are subconsciously saying, “I see in you what I dislike in me.” By understanding that their views belong to them and not to you, your self-esteem is more likely to stay when negative words are said.   A final tip to boost your self-esteem is to speak to a trusted friend or therapist. By opening up to a good listener who cares about you, you will begin to let go of negative feelings and toxins in the body and feel restored.   Furthermore, until you deal with your self-esteem issues, business success cannot be fully achieved or enjoyed. By working on your self, success must follow. Ignoring your problems and repeating the same patterns is an unhealthy road to nowhere.  Poor self-esteem will linger in all of your business dealings. If you were obliged to behave like a “sheep” following your parents’ demands as a child, you might do the same thing in the workplace and get eaten alive “by wolves”. Take the first step and be honest with yourself about where you are in your life, and especially where you hope to see yourself in the future. Now picture this scenario: You see yourself as a child, struggling in a difficult or unhappy environment. You suddenly experience negative emotions you’ve kept bottled up for years. You discuss your feelings with a close friend or therapist. You find yourself letting go of everything you’ve kept so close to your heart due to feelings of shame. You suddenly feel light, like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders. You see how you’ve held yourself back from all the wonderful things you have yet to experience in life. We are all beautiful human beings and we each have the right to be who we are. Unfortunately our environment may shape some of us to believe otherwise. The good news: healing comes from within and can be spread once we all recognize that everyone in this world is equal, and should be treated as such.  Self-Esteem Quotes "Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly." ~ St. Francis De Sales "Listen to your heart above all other voices." ~ Marta Kagan "Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~ Judy Garland "You were not born a winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself be." ~ Lou Holtz "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world." ~ Unknown Author "It is better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for something you are not." ~ Andre Gide "Self-trust is the first secret of success." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson "If you don't run your own life, somebody else will." ~ John Atkinson "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt "Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement." ~ Golda Meir "Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality." ~ Les Brown "I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time." ~ Anna Freud With best compliments Dr Wilfred Monteiro Mumbai- India t

What are personal blind spots?...unproductive behaviors that are hidden from ourselves but are glaring to everyone else, mainly our followers and our business rivals .

CAN META+ COACHING HELP YOU TO SEE YOUR BLIND SPOTS To succeed as a manager, you need to learn how to recognize your blind spots and overcome them. Too often, leaders demonstrate behaviors that let down their success and consequently both their team and their organization. What are leadership blind spots?...unproductive behaviors that are hidden from ourselves  but are glaring to everyone else, mainly our followers and our business rivals . Our behavioral blind spots could create bad and unintended consequences: Th ey corrupt decision-making, reduce our scope of awareness, create enemies,  divide teams into warring camps, destroy careers, and sabotage business results. No one is immune to blind spots, of course. But leaders are particularly vulnerable. It's enough that they must often navigate massive change and cope with stressful situations every day. But add to this the overpowering belief that many leaders shoulder: "I should have all the answers, I should know what to do, and I should be able to handle challenges alone." For many, the need to be right becomes much stronger than the need to be effective. And only the most confident leaders are willing to surround themselves with people who will point out what they're doing wrong—and be rewarded for their honesty. More often, everyone is forced to endure the boss' weaknesses in silence. Blind spots are not flaws; nor are they malicious. They are automatic behaviors. The real culprits are not the blind spots themselves. The problem is when they are unidentified and mismanaged. 10 simple ways to save you  from messing up your own life There are 10 blind spots that persistently knock people off the career ladder and undermine organizational  & individual performance. Below are ones that I have come across most often in my work as a management consultant 1.         Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Only your actions are directly under your control. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame. 2.         Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come. 3.         Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe. 4.         Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway? 5.         Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane. 6.         Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you. Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or People are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are thinking and saying about them) to be concerned about you. 7.         Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish, nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your life by numbers that were silly in the first place. 8.         Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality. 9.         Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a less serious mental disability fail to understand this. 10.       Don’t worry about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way. With best wishes Dr Wilfred Monteiro